Im no longer afraid of being alone :)

Okay, so I'm addicted to group help sites:

I know and understand it's hard being on your own...I have done it!! Raised two kids and work full time...it's lonely at times but when you weigh up all the crap you take from unsuitable men...being single and going it alone is a dream.

It's so tempting to get into relationships hoping and dreaming it will all turn into something special, but if you come across as a little bit soft or needy or vulnerable, it's a green light for some men to take advantage.

 

I know so many women in poor relationships where they are manipulated and treated really badly and unfairly and they stay because they fear being on their own. They make 'creating the perfect relationship' the focus of their life and feel a failure if they don't have a partner...it's utter rubbish and makes women jump through hoops to cling on to the shittiest of men...JUST to say 'I am not alone'

When you are single, the greatest thing you gain is time to breathe, to evaluate your life and take control over your matters. Money is easier to manage, you have more time for your children, family and friends...and you have total control over your personal well being.

Since spending a good few years by myself I have learned a very important lesson...that MY LIFE MATTERS and MY HAPPINESS and that of my kids comes first. I too have met some really seriously dodgy men...they used to fool me but not anymore, I date on occasion (because I'm a total babe..JK :-)but if I get whiff of bad behaviour or manipulation I bail out. Sometimes I just enjoy being on my own...it's fantastic and I love it way to much to give it up for the wrong guy.

One day I will meet someone who I am totally happy with and who will be happy with me, but I never let NOT being in a relationship spoil my life or force me to make bad choices.

Ask yourself if you NEED to be in a relationship. Do you need to be in one for financial reasons or emotional reasons?...If so, Is it worth putting up with all the shit you are getting and are your needs really being met by this guy?

Ask yourself if you WANT to be in a relationship and if so are you truly wanting to stay with someone who treats you so meanly and doesn't care for you like he should?

If there is no justification for want or need...what's the point of being there?

We all learn in life that people do not change if things are going their way. Your guy has it all his own way and obviously feels good controlling you, therefore he won't ever change...it is you that is struggling because you are not getting what you need and you are having to make a monumental effort to paper over the cracks to make things appear normal...IS IT WORTH THE FIGHT?

I feel for you.