I'm a hopeless romantic, love flowers (roses especially), write poetry, and am dying to learn to play the acoustic guitar so I can one day serenade my sweetheart. Think of Edwin McCain's song, "I'll Be."
I sound great, don't I? But there is one catch! I'm still a guy! And I drive my woman crazy! Now think of Brad Paisley's song, "I'm still a guy!"
Made my life worth living this link, to the point that I even handwritten it down so I remember it FOREVER.
Now, this brings me to the crucial part of this blog: unrealistic expectations. This is probably the last thing you wanted to read about, but this is the issue many times ladies. I have experienced this many times myself, especially because I'm a straight male psychic. Most of my callers are female and ladies tend to be more relationship-oriented. So if you want to make things work with your man, please take it from a guy who has been the victim of unrealistic expectations before.
Understand that your man cannot always talk about his feelings. He might need more time to process them. Forcing him to talk doesn't get you a more 'honest' answer. It makes him resentful for being nagged.
If your man makes time in his schedule for you, express yourappreciation. Life moves fast these days. He might be moving mountains just to spend a few hours with you. Your appreciation will motivate him to want to make more time for you.
Let him earn money and work. Nothing messes with a man's self-image then not having constructive work or not earning his own way.
If he has children from a previous marriage/relationship, don't interfere with his devotion to his children. Wanting to be a part of their lives is one thing, but don't place yourself in direct competition with his children. There are very few good fathers out there. We need all the support we can get.
Don't create rules that he must adhere to, to 'prove' that he loves you. It's manipulative and you wouldn't want him doing that to you. If you need him to do something for you, simply ask him. Tell him how much it means to you and if he's worth anything, he'll move mountains to make you happy.
Don't challenge his affection with questions like, "Do you even love me?" That is the wrong way to go about getting the reassurance you need. Express your concern about his love if you need to, but challenging him is going to deeply insult him.
Respect his skill and competence as a man. I realize this is difficult to do in the age political correctness and often militant feminism. But let's face it ladies, you want love and we men have it. Questioning a man too much about his business decisions, his trade or vocation is a mistake. Unless you're in the same business and have more experience then him, he's going to resent it. It's like your telling him, "I don't trust you to provide for me." This about it? Do you want him coming into the kitchen and questioning your cooking skills? Most ladies still pride themselves on being good cooks. You would be offended and tell him to get the heck of your kitchen, right? So have someconfidence and respect for your man. He might need to learn from a few mistakes, but that's life, we all do.
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